I love myself.
I’m a beautiful, stylish, accomplished young woman. No one can change that.
No one’s ego is worth the loss of my self-esteem, my self-love.
Nothing in the world is worth looking in the mirror and not liking what I see.
No guy is worth beating myself up over.
No one can hurt me unless I let them. I will not let them hurt me.
I will stand in the face of adversity and abuse, and if I can’t stand, I’ll die trying.
I may break, but I’ll never lose sight of who I am again.
I will fight, not only for myself, but also for the sexually abused, the physically abused, the emotionally abused, the verbally abused, the mentally abused, the self-abused, the neglected. Nobody should ever be so alone that they would believe they deserve that treatment.
I will not use my blood, my skin, my scars as the tools to tell my story, to myself or to this world, but I will not judge those who choose to.
I will follow the example given to me and be a light to those in need, even when they have convinced themselves they’d rather be in the dark.
I will not let myself fall into unhealthy patterns of self-hate and neediness.
I will not lose myself or my bride for the sake of anyone or anything else.
I will not believe the debilitating lies of users and abusers. I will aid others in the discovery of the truth.
I will not ignore a plea for help.
I will not allow my dreams to be ended in the depths of abuse, on my terms or my abuser’s terms. I will let myself cry and mourn for those who have.
I will hold no respect for a person who abuses anyone, no matter what his or her other accomplishments may be.
I will never let any abuser go unpunished for their actions if it is within my power to punish them.
I will not blame a child for their parents’ actions.
I will not suppress the memories, because they are the key to future safety.
Alcohol is not an excuse for abuse, or a reason to put up with it, and I will not use it as such, nor will I allow it to be used as such by others.
Never will I allow unfaithfulness for any reason in myself or my partner.
I will fight back.
I deserve respect, and I will get it, because I love myself.
Dear Readers: I wrote myself this treaty and have put it on my wall constantly since I wrote it. I thought I would share it, as this is sort of the theme and main point of so much of my work. It is what I stand for. I’d appreciate if you would sign on to the treaty in comments, share this post via Twitter and reblogging. Please attribute it back to me, but I do want people to share this with people in their lives because it helped me in some of my darkest hours and I believe it could help others.
Thanks so much.