I Love Myself: A Lifestyle Treaty

I love myself.

I’m a beautiful, stylish, accomplished young woman. No one can change that.

No one’s ego is worth the loss of my self-esteem, my self-love.

Nothing in the world is worth looking in the mirror and not liking what I see.

No guy is worth beating myself up over.

No one can hurt me unless I let them. I will not let them hurt me.

I will stand in the face of adversity and abuse, and if I can’t stand, I’ll die trying.

I may break, but I’ll never lose sight of who I am again.

I will fight, not only for myself, but also for the sexually abused, the physically abused, the emotionally abused, the verbally abused, the mentally abused, the self-abused, the neglected. Nobody should ever be so alone that they would believe they deserve that treatment.

I will not use my blood, my skin, my scars as the tools to tell my story, to myself or to this world, but I will not judge those who choose to.

I will follow the example given to me and be a light to those in need, even when they have convinced themselves they’d rather be in the dark.

I will not let myself fall into unhealthy patterns of self-hate and neediness.

I will not lose myself or my bride for the sake of anyone or anything else.

I will not believe the debilitating lies of users and abusers. I will aid others in the discovery of the truth.

I will not ignore a plea for help.

I will not allow my dreams to be ended in the depths of abuse, on my terms or my abuser’s terms. I will let myself cry and mourn for those who have.

I will hold no respect for a person who abuses anyone, no matter what his or her other accomplishments may be.

I will never let any abuser go unpunished for their actions if it is within my power to punish them.

I will not blame a child for their parents’ actions.

I will not suppress the memories, because they are the key to future safety.

Alcohol is not an excuse for abuse, or a reason to put up with it, and I will not use it as such, nor will I allow it to be used as such by others.

Never will I allow unfaithfulness for any reason in myself or my partner.

I will fight back.

I deserve respect, and I will get it, because I love myself.

-Charlotte Blackwood

Dear Readers: I wrote myself this treaty and have put it on my wall constantly since I wrote it. I thought I would share it, as this is sort of the theme and main point of so much of my work. It is what I stand for. I’d appreciate if you would sign on to the treaty in comments, share this post via Twitter and reblogging. Please attribute it back to me, but I do want people to share this with people in their lives because it helped me in some of my darkest hours and I believe it could help others.

Thanks so much.





About Charlotte Blackwood

Charlotte Blackwood is a self-employed aspiring author working on perfecting her first novella/ first novel. She is a current student at Claremont McKenna College in Claremont, CA. If you're looking for a reading list (someday she'll add her own works to the list), she's currently supporting Anna Karenina, anything by Dickens, anything by Tolkien, anything by JK Rowling, A Song of Ice and Fire, and The Hunger Games.

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